I personally think Mermaids are sexy!! ;)

First I am going to post a popular picture and reply that is circling around right now. Many are taking it as empowering, encouraging, or a wonderful story. To me, it rubbed me the wrong way. And NOT simply because I am into fitness, but because I always find irony in a need to KNOCK something to raise something else up, PERIOD. I think this statement always rings true.



So if you haven't heard the whole Mermaid Vs. Whale Story... Here it is. It is circulating with a picture of a French Model Tara Lynn. The irony starts in the fact that she is a MODEL... but I'll come back to that...





A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.

They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "

(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn)



***Hmmmm I get the point of the whole mermaid vs whale story, I really do. First of all, the poster was clearly seen as derogatory and I get that. Calling women whales never really goes over well. But the irony was it struck a cord with this particular woman who claims to be so confident. If she were, why would it have bothered her so much in the first place? I myself have taken a passion and made it my LIFE to encourage woman to embrace their bodies at all sizes, but to do so while being HEALTHY! Defining who you want to be does not come from a size or a number on the scale. It comes from knowing you are healthy, fit, happy, and feel as good on the inside as you do on the outside. You can weigh 110 pounds and still hate your body.

BUT this sounds like a cop out to be unhealthy!! An easy way to KNOCK slim/fit women, implying that they are somehow less successful at all the things "whales can do" just by being thin and/or fit. Its the classic if I can't be them, then I'll just simply KNOCK them mentality. Clearly if this ad bothered a women enough to write a thought out reply something inside of her is "unsettled" by the "mermaid type". Giselle Bunchen, Heidi Klum, Faith Hill, Jane Seymour, Brook Sheilds, Brooke Burke, Kelly Ripa, Faith Hill, Victoria Beckham, would all be considered "mermaids" then huh? They have had babies, marriages, careers, success, and happiness!! Or what about all the fit Moms who compete and rock single digits of body fat? Guess what? Just because they are fit or thin or beautiful does not make them any less better at enjoying life than you! Some woman can DO IT ALL, and instead of knocking them, we should aspire to be like them. Which doesn't have to mean perfect, or thin or beautiful, but CONTENT within themselves, inside and out. TRUE CONFIDENCE SPEAKS QUIETLY FOR ITSELF.

So why does it bother me so much that I feel a need to retaliate? What is MY INSECURITY. Mine is pretty clear to see, whether people admit it to my face or not I am constantly judged for looking or acting a certain way. If a mother spends too much time on her looks, it must mean she's stuck up and not spending enough time on her children right? Not that she really feels good and knows taking care of herself first makes her a better Mother right? I have built a little business doing what I love, and making more money than any part time job I've ever worked as a Mother. But my life revolves around being healthy, so I must not have much fun right? And God forbid I do have too much fun, then I am irresponsible. Damned if you do damned if you don't.

My retaliation is because I am so sick as a woman of seeing the WARS between woman...Working vs Stay home, Breastfeeding vs. Bottle feeding, Co sleepers, vs Crib sleepers, Young Vs. Old. And the infamous Fat vs Thin. ENOUGH ALREADY. I have carried 3 children within my body, slept with them on my chest, nursed them, kissed tiny toes & wiped away tears. I have been puked on, peed on & spent sleepless nights cradling them. My body isn't magazine perfect (hate to break it to you magazines aren't real), but when I look in the mirror I do not see JUST A MOM, I see a beautiful women. I see strength, I see determination, I see laugh lines, I see stretch marks, I see the body of someone I can be PROUD OF. So lets stop copping out to "we are fat because we are cultured". We are a fat nation because we eat poorly, and do not exercise. We have a 34% obesity rate because we don't take care of ourselves. Embrace your curves as long as you know they are HEALTHY curves!

And the biggest IRONY of it all is THE picture circulating with the story is still that of a MODEL!!! A woman who is paid because she is beautiful. So despite trying to rise above being image conscious, it attached to a picture of a MODEL!!! Maybe she is considered more "plus size" or "curvy", but we are still attaching her worth to WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE!!

Sounds Like Life To Me...

It is no coincidence that the only tattoo I have on my body is very symbolic and appropriate for me. It is the word SERENITY... right down the middle of my spine - my BACK BONE. The spine represents your support system, your strength, stamina and responsibilities. It helps to keep your head high even in difficult times. It is your "backbone" suggesting that you need to stay true to your own convictions and be firm. The spine is symbolic of strength. So SERENITY (the important quality I did not posses at the time)- was forever tattooed down the middle of my spine as a reminder to me of what happens when I do not possess it.

If you have ever met me, serene is the LAST word you would ever use to describe me. I talk fast, walk fast, move fast, think fast, I even sleep fast! I have trouble slowing down. Before my 26th birthday I was forced to slow down. At the time I thought it was ridiculous. Why would I want to slow down? People say they wish they could bottle my energy, wish they could get as much done in a day as I can, why would I want to take that away? But trust me, a hyperactive brain, drive, and motion has its down falls, and I experienced it first hand. Your body and mind can only handle so much. And serenity is actually a prized possession for someone like me, and needs to be treated as such. It was, and remains a tough lesson for me to learn. In this fast paced world you would think the one who cleans their house the fasted is the best, right? The one who works the most and makes the most money wins, right? The one who can get her whole “to do list” done before noon time is an amazing super mommy, right? That's the way I THOUGHT - but it’s so far from the truth.

The serenity prayer is also something I never really thought much about until 2008. I don't even think I took the time to think it, say it, or let it sink in. In fact I use to Mock it with the saying: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I cannot accept, and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people I had to kill today because they pissed me off!” haha I'm telling you I was a stubborn stubborn mo fo. :)

But now I TRULY APPRECIATE THOSE WORDS: THE REAL WORDS:





In my 28 years on this planet I have been through A LOT, more than most would imagine. I am incredibly blessed, but not without my fair share of obstacles. And after a major meltdown yesterday because of some frustrating news and a conversation with my husband and father, something hit me - my aha moment. I can handle pretty much ANYTHING THROWN AT ME. I've had horrible pregnancies young, sick babies, tragedies, serious illnesses in my family, health troubles, economy troubles, financial worries, and I don't really break down for much, in fact I RARELY, RARELY, do. So yesterday when I was so frustrated I couldn't even see straight: the words flowed out of my mouth before I even had a chance to think about them, I Said: "THE ONLY TIME I AM EVER SO STRESSED I CAN"T STAND IT IS WHEN SOMETHING IS COMPLETELY OUT OF MY CONTROL AND THERE"S NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT." And my husband and father sat there quietly, didn't say a word for a minute and then they both thought the same thought, almost talking over each other. "That's THE ONE TIME you shouldn't be stressed, because there is really NOTHING you can do." my ahaaaaa - why is my brain so ass backwards. Don't have enough money - doesn't stress me, it means work harder or spend less. Sick babies, it means take them to the best doctors and take care of them the best you can. Serious illness - it means again same thing best doctors and fight it. Tragedies - it means stay strong, and wait for time to heal. I'm not saying I'm perfect but all these obstacles I can and have overcome fairly easily - but tell me there's something I can do NOTHING about, and that's when my strength dwindles, and frustration takes over. It is just "how I'm wired". It goes back to a virgos need for perfection and control yada yada.

But last night I realized it very strongly and now know it’s another working point in my life. Serenity may come easy to some, but I am not those "some", and I am well aware of that. "Letting things go" comes easy to some, but again, I can only dream of being that easy going. As I age and mature, it is a process of simply "defining who I want to be". Neurotic is only good for so long and in CERTAIN settings, but in everyday life and with my family - I'm trying to appreciate, and realize I simply have to work at what I want, and let go of what I simply cannot control.

With that being said lets talk about the TOLL that stressing really takes on your body. Now I am not exaggerating when I say I do not stress much, at least I really try not to let much get to me. I mean I have the normal day to day stress, but not the OMG I want to cry, or punch someone in the face stress often. I've always thought life is simply just to short to be miserable and or stressed all the time. Last night after stressing for a few hours over something I literally can do nothing about, my body hurt. I felt like I had been in a fight, I was exhausted, my head was pounding beyond belief, and I was just lethargic. How is that productive? How is that a way to live?

Now scroll through your face book statuses - is there someone who is always dramatically frustrated with life:
"why me?!"
"What else could possibly go wrong?"
"Life's not fair."
"Work sucked so bad, I have the worst migraine."
"I just want to be alone."
"I just need to win the lottery."
"I need a vacation."

Or that person that every time you talk to them their life is falling apart. I'm not saying we don't all have our days when we need to VENT because we do, and we are fully allowed to without judgment. And I’m not trying to single anyone out. But really think of those who CONSTANTLY seem like their life is one big catastrophe. Now think of their health, their lifestyle habits, and their disposition... get where I'm going with this? Or do I need to draw you a picture? Life is as hard as WE choose to make it. Sometimes it’s complicated. Some are more blessed than others. But STRESS is ONE of the absolute WORSE things you can do for your body and mind. Your attitude and perception totally CHANGE the way you react to difficult times. It is why I take care of my body from the inside/out and am so passionate about teaching others to do the same. I say the gym and a healthy lifestyle is my prozac, and it’s VERY TRUE. Without it I would be a complete and TOTAL HOT MESS - not just a slight hot mess ;). Below is a SONG that will wrap this blog up PERFECTLY - yes its country - bare with me even if you don't like country and just LISTEN TO THE LYRICS!!! VERY TRUE and needs to be said MORE OFTEN:

Sounds like Life to ME, ain't no fantasy. Just a common case of everyday reality. Man I know it's tough but you gotta suck it up. To hear you talk you’re caught up in some tragedy... It sounds like life to me!

The more goals you set - the more goals you get.

You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you have to make choices, and hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are. ~Fred Rogers

Our life's accomplishments over the past year are different phases of life all jumbled together...but I wouldn't want it any other way!! As I am approaching yet another birthday in September I always try and take time to reflect on what some of my goals where at the beginning of the year and where I'm headed. As I'm getting my schedule together for the Fall I'm really appreciating all that we have accomplished over the last year. They may seem like small accomplishments to some, but for us its been an eventful, successful year. As someone who always wants things done yesterday I need to remind myself Rome wasn't built in a day, and not having patience to see things through has been a downfall of mine. I am strong when things are challenging and fast paced but the day to day boredom of some goals - the all out grind when you just must do what you have to do, that's where real strength comes in.

Over the past year we have conquered pre - school with the twins - seems like a small feat, but if you knew my twins you'd know it was a task indeed. Successfully got through my daughters first year of dance competitions and high honor roll at school - VERY PROUD! We moved into and worked on our new house a lot this year - such a labor of LOVE. Took off with my own business - training, boot camps and seminars. And last but not least over the last year I have completed my required 28 credits on dean's list and meeting all requirements to officially apply to the rad tech program!! Looking forward to another year of ACCOMPLISHMENTS and goals!!

Of course there are some things on my "list" that haven't gotten accomplished as planned, however I am choosing to focus on what I can! That's why I love this quote and feel it applies strongly to my life "You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you have to make choices, and hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are." ~Fred Rogers. The only thing I can attribute everything I've been able to accomplish to is the amazing support of my family, and my determination to make them and my children proud!!

So for anyone reading this who has a goal big or small. Physique, diet, training, career, motherhood, marriage, education,whatever your goal is related to, my best advice is this... commit to it like you never have before, put it out there, tell everyone and everyone and ASK for support!!! Swallow your pride, if you need help TAKE IT! Because next birthday comes around you don't want to be saying I WISH! Instead you can be saying I did. Time to reassess and refocus because the next birthday, next year is a big one and I gotta make sure I'm on point for it!! See my poor brain never rests!!

This is NOT a pat myself on the back blog, as I read it back I kinda felt like it was YUCK! Instead its a reminder to myself and to us all - We want it all - ALL AT ONCE RIGHT NOW! No,no, YESTERDAY actually! Reality doesn't work like that - reality comes from consistency, planning, and perseverance. Sometimes a quick check to remind ourselves to breathe, take step backs and realize its one step at a time, DOES WONDERS. Just make sure we are still on track and keep plugging away!

What can Body Definition Boot Camp Do For YOU???

What can Body Definition Boot Camp Do For you???


Over the next few weeks I will be trying to showcase some of the success the clients have been having with BODY DEFINITION BOOT CAMP/ IN HOME TRAINING/ AND ONLINE PROGRAMS!! First up because she shared her excitement today and I wanted to share: Dianne Miller : I think her story is important because (not to toot my own horn - BUT ALL TRAINERS are NOT CREATED EQUAL) And Dianne is proof of that. Dianne went to a local gym and decided she wanted to reach a goal, so she took the steps and HIRED a trainer. In my opinion it is one of the best things you can do to commit. Put your money where your mouth is and DECIDE to stick to a plan, decide to learn, and decide to CHANGE. However buyer beware, not all "trainers" will get you RESULTS. They may have the newest excercise, great routines, you may even be SO SORE when you leave, but what are you seeking? RESULTS. THIS IS MY FOCUS with clients, everything else is find and dandy, but lets focus on YOUR GOAL. Why it is you hired me?


SO Dianne hires a trainer a YEAR LONG COMMITMENT MIND YOU, to the TUNE of $379/month. What did she receive? Workouts? sure. A Meal plan? Well, a LIST of ideal foods. Weigh-Ins and Measurements - to check progress and hold her goal accountable? Well ONE TIME OVER THE COURSE OF THE YEAR! Lets compare to what she received with Body Definition...


When we first started our boot camp sessions together, this is what Dianne had to say: "3rd week of boot camp done and i am losing inches and pounds, feel so much better than i have in years, thank you very much steph♥"


TO WHICH I REPLIED YOU ARE DOING ALL THE GREAT WORK!! I like to emphasize that there is NO MAGIC, I don't have any "secrets" its always a results of consistency, and intensity.


TO which Dianne replied "i know but to think all last year i had a trainer at the gym and got NO results and in 3 weeks i already am getting better results. it only proves that with an excellent trainer who covers every aspect including nutrition (which they didn't do ) you can do anything!!"

And now after finishing two 6 week sessions:This is what Dianne had to write today: "ran into my old trainer at the gym today. she did not recognize me at first. one whole year of working out with her and had no results to speak of. 2 six week boot camp sessions with Stephanie Villers and I am 4 lbs away from my goal and feeling great! thanks Steph your'e the best ♥"

Here's the best part of this story so you can all realize the depth of the program and how it works for EVERYONE, EVERY SIZE, EVERY AGE, who is willing to WORK FOR IT!!: Dianne is OVER 40, has some injuries that we work around, works on the road so she is out and about in her car all day (which does not make food planning easy.) Lets see did I cover all the excuses she could have used?


What did she get out of the program? Let me rephrase that, what did we work together to achieve?

**She had hands on workouts with me three days a week for one hour, small group, personalized.

**She received a FULL nutrition plan with meal ideas and monitoring every two weeks.

**She received access to me through text/email/phone to me to answer questions/concerns/issues with foods etc.

**She was weighed and measure every two weeks to make sure we were on track to where she wanted to go.

** She was given REAL FOOD - DAIRY, FRUIT, STARCHES, VEGETABLES, LEAN PROTEINS, HEALTHY FATS, food she enjoyed, food she found easy to prepare, and PLENTY of it. AND EVEN *gasp* enjoyed cheat meals of whatever she wanted occasionally off plan.

Dianne came to me drinking 15 cups of coffee a day hardly any water and maybe eating once or twice a day. She had done a no sugar no carb diet and dropped 10 pounds and then had gotten stuck. Her original goal was to "drop another 10". Ironically when reteaching someone how to properly eat and hydrate, often the body takes time to adjust. The first week on PLAN Dianne GAINED 1.4 pounds! Uh -oh I'm sure the thought crossed her mind, just another trainer who is not going to get me results I'm looking for. I talked to her and explained what we were doing to CHANGE and fix her metabolism and told her to TRUST me and STAY STRONG and consistent and she would be happy AND SHE DID!!! And HER RESULTS???? FINALLY.... DRUM ROLL....

after 2 boot camps 12 weeks total for $260 a piece (which was FAR LESS than two months - she had paid with her previous trainer)

weight loss - 18.2 pounds loss

lost 4 inches off her waist

lost 3 inches off her hips

lost 2 1/2 inches off each leg

lost 2 dress sizes!!


More importantly she has totally changed her lifestyle habits. She drinks a ton of water, really missed her fruit doing the no carb no sugar, so has been enjoying fruits and veggies, eats every few hours, drinks A LOT LESS COFFEE, has more energy, sleeps better, and feels and looks GREAT!!! Now before you say yeah sure go back and read her age, read her schedule, read her habits, read about her injuries, and REMEMBER I CAN GIVE YOU THE TOOLS, BUT YOU MUST WORK FOR IT and DETERMINE TO DO IT FOR YOURSELF LIKE DIANNE.


I asked Dianne for a before and after and her reply "I don't have many before's because I hated having my picture taken when I was heavy." ( how many people can relate to that?) However she will take one in her size 14s that are now SWIMMING ON HER and Dianne will be celebrating her wedding Anniversary next month IN VEGAS where she will be rocking a bikini PROUDLY so I expect some nice pics from that!!!!


GREAT JOB DIANNE!!!



NEXT BOOTCAMP WILL BEGIN JULY 18th Monday Wednesday and Friday Evenings: Times to be determined by group sizes but beginning after 6pm. Please email me for further details: stephanie_villers@yahoo.com as body definition website is undergoing changes. DEPOSIT REQUIRED TO HOLD SPOT. FIRST COME FIRST SERVE.


MORE CLIENT RESULTS TO COME... NEXT UP SADINNA PERRY'S STORY this one's gonna touch MANY the girl is determined!! And doing it the right way when many other options have been thrown her way!

Concrete Angels... may they rest in peace

Contrary to the fact that I woke up from anesthesia crying, that I cried like a baby, I mean like a baby you stole something from to the movie PS I LOVE YOU, and that I cry happy tears when I see my daughter dance, almost every time... the truth is I am not an overly emotional person = "a crier" if you will, well MOST OF THE time anyway. If you ask my close friends and family I bet they will say they can count on one hand the amount of times they've seen me cry. I actually am annoyed by girls that cry at everything, I don't mean the touched tears I mean the my life's so hard, so I cry tears all the time, its like toughen up your ducts already or something LOL it just makes me numb to crying I guess. And I have that weird sense of laughing while I'm crying even when I do. I guess my body tries to fight it.

Even now I'm joking but what I want to write about is no joking matter its one of those "things" that actually brought me to tears. We have had so many sad tragedies in our time, personally, locally, globally, its no secret this world is severely messed up. The news on TV I know is background noise for many, but not in our house. I read what I have to online to keep up with the important stuff and that's it. I never watch it with my children or family. Its actually one of those things I don't understand, people won't let kids watch PG-13 movies, or play violent video games, but their 8 year old can sit right next to them as the man on channel 5 tells about how a group of men broke into a house and went on a brutal killing spree for no apparent reason at all, or how a college that their 8 year old dreams about going to is locked down because there has been 4 consecutive rape cases in the last two weeks. Just saying... news is not ever anything positive or anything I want the focus of my evening chatter to be while my kids are awake. And if media is not focusing on all the scary things going on, then its pure junk gossip. How many illegitimate kids did another politician father, or how a "scientifically socially educated psychologist" released "scientific information" about how black women are less attractive... really do I need to prove my news case anymore. And I've never been one to post these stories on face book, really talk about vote for the worst spirit lifter ever - posting sad stories, what does that say about you? If you can go back on your wall and find more than five disturbing news stories, you need a new hobby. But this story, this story struck different. This story hit many. This story cannot be called sad, cannot be called evil, for some unspeakable reason it took a form that reached down inside of many of us far deeper than sad or evil. A story that I feel I will remember unfortunately for a very long time. His name. His little beautiful face, but most of all his shoes.

Last week I took the boys shoe shopping, they are growing like little weeds which is wonderful. You know for little preemies that were three and a half and four pounds three ounces who had some rough times, you'd never know looking at these honking feet. These little toes that are so adorable yet somehow find a way to bust holes right through socks. When I bought them new shoes, we took a picture of my 11 year olds feet (peanut) next to our 4 year olds and ummmmm they are not far off!! She has on fly Nike Shox, yeah well they had Shox too but they have outgrown two pairs of sneakers since then so in this economy we were looking for value over "name". So we went shoe shopping. It was so cute listening to their little opinions "I don't like those brown ones", "those look too big" And then it was like they saw Gold!!! THE LIGHTNING MCQUEEN SNEAKERS!!! It was all Broderick could talk about. I did everything in my power to talk him out of them, I had to talk and walk quickly because they were taking him over (I'm not really a fan of character shoes) and I can still hear his little voice "But Lightning McQueen's a big boy, and I'm a big boy, so I should get those shoes." When I got out of the store I called my husband and told him all about our shoe shopping experience and how I felt like a bad Mommy for not letting him get the McQueen shoes. We laughed and joked, and said he'll forget all about them, they're just shoes. But now I never will.

Many know I had my daughter young. I was clueless, naive, very selfish, and oh did I mention clueless. But as SOON as I had her it was like second nature. I belonged to her, she belonged to me. No one needed to tell me, show me, explain it, its just such a natural, pure love. She needed me and I didn't even know it but I needed her. She came out, I held her, nursed her, cuddled her, and voila an angel was born. I thought woman must just have this instinct put in them, when a baby is born a mommy is born. No one needs to tell you you would give your life for this child, no one needs to tell you they are sacred, innocent, and come first. Its just an unconditional love that just overwhelms you. Unfortunately the sad truth is its not something ALL women are born with as - so to hear this story - KILLED ME TO THE CORE.

If you do not know what story I am talking about yet then you probably are not from the new England area because its circulating rapidly. Briefly, on Tuesday in Maine they found a dead body of a 4 - 6 year old boy. A beautiful little boy blonde hair, blue eyed boy. He was wearing a gray camouflage hooded sweatshirt with the brand name “Faded Glory,’’ tan pants, and “Lightning McQueen’’ black sneakers. Lightning McQueen sneakers, those words hit me like a ton of bricks and I just felt sick to my stomach. Its not that I selfishly thought about my own children instinctively alone, but that this poor baby was discarded dead on the road like that, that no one was claiming him, missing him, looking for him, caring about him. The shoes brought me back to how INNOCENT a child is, I could hear Broderick's little voice: "But Lightning McQueen's a big boy, and I'm a big boy, so I should get those shoes." How could anyone HURT a child so innocent, how could anyone discard a child like they are rubbish. It made my stomach turn and it made me cry. My heart broke for that poor boy, life can be so unfair. We all think it I would have taken that CHILD!! To hurt a child is so inconceivable, and later we find out to be hurt by his own mother is nothing short of PURE EVIL. My only hope is that he is resting now and peaceful.

Every lightning McQueen toy I see in our house I think of him, my husband even does too because remember I called and told him all about the shoes story so he knew about it as well. Every quiet moment when I'm watching them grow and learn and explore, I think of him, so innocent so pure, its just so heart wrenching. Some things we cannot change, some things we cannot control, evil people are powerful when they creep into our lives and thoughts too much so I will not even give this waste of breath a single sentence more, I will only say that my heart and thoughts are with little Camden, may he rest in peace.

And as I walked my children up the stairs to preschool on Tuesday I took the time to realize all the changes and growth they have made. In September the teachers where peeling Broderick off kicking and screaming because he wanted to be home with Mommy, and there he was my little men walking up the stairs finding their own hooks, taking off their jackets hanging them up, taking out their lunch boxes and putting their back packs away all by themselves. It was all I could do to get hugs and kisses out of them, they were off to play! They have grown so much since September. And tonight at home they cut out their projects for their sea calendar Broderick's lines straighter than Bryce's but he'll get there, and again there was the lightning McQueen Toy reminding me. Its ok though I am not thinking of the evil, may he rest in peace, justice be served, and may I focus on my job as a Mommy keeping them HAPPY AND SAFE. HAPPY AND SAFE. Its a balance, especially as they get older, my daughter is 11 and everything that keeps her safe doesn't always make her happy, but she understands (kinda). For Mothers Day she wrote me a BOOK of poems, so pure and sweet and this one was one of my favorites...




May every Mommy, Daddy, Aunt, Uncle, Grandma, Grandpa, God Parent, Sibling, and every person that Loves and Appreciates children remember that's our only job happy and safe. And though this world is sick and twisted sometimes. We must focus on the love we are blessed with to be received and to be shared.

RIP CAMDEN... ALWAYS IN OUR THOUGHTS

Wisdom Teeth Gone

Well my wisdom teeth are gone!! As of today! They were suppose to come out roughly 12 years ago but I am a dental procrastinator... ANXIETY of the dentist to the 10th power. Unfortunately they became impacted and since I had 4 teeth pulled as a teenager due to crowding, before I wore braces those damn wisdom teeth crowded my perfectly straight teeth AGAIN! I'm hoping now that they're gone I may be able to get a retainer or invisalign to get back my straight pearly whites, they're not horrible just a little crowding on the bottom that I know my parents are saying what a wast of a couple grand!

So I headed to the oral surgeon today trying not to get too worked up but absolutely hating the idea! HATE THE DENTIST, as soon as I'm hit with that notorious smell of the office I get queasy. My mother in law who I am so lucky to have drove me and sat in the office through the entire procedure. As soon as the put the monitors on me to monitor my vitals the Dr says "ok you are either about to faint, are an extremely calm person, or you work out a lot, your heart rate is so LOW!" I chuckled and we started talking about my working out, being a personal trainer, and teaching boot camp and that was the last I really remember. He froze my arm to put an IV in - honestly that freezing stuff is so cold it almost tingles more than a needle poke... I thought my skin was gonna fall off LOL. Next I knew I was sitting up in a room and my mother in law was sitting in front of me. I woke up from anesthesia shaking like I was freezin cold, must have been that ice stuff haha and crying, like really crying. Yet I have no clue why I was crying which made it all the more weird. I wasn't in any pain at that point, totally numb, but they said it does happen. I remember thinking why the hell am I crying? Is something wrong and I don't remember haha I am def a light weight cause I was out of it! Thank goodness for my amazing mother in law, she sat there talking to me, rubbing my leg and talking me through waking up. I kept see the doctor run by and say do you remember this? Or do you remember that? And I was like ummmmmm not at all. He was so cheery, and I was still thinking HEY why am I crying? LOL My mother in law went over all the instructions with me and the nurse, made sure I was less groggy, got me home and tucked me into bed. She went and got my meds for me and stayed until I was in la la land off asleep. I love this woman. So sweet and helpful. I'm sure I was just a groggy joy! lol And thanks to my Dad (I have such amazing family) he took the boys for the day and even went to my daughter's school to watch her in her poetry reading. (Which I was very sad I had to miss). My dentist called to check up on me and told me the pain in my lower left side will be pretty significant and gave me instructions on how to medicate. We're gonna layer advils on Percs for the pain because he said I think you'd be too loopy on two percs haha So percocets and chill time on the agenda for the evening, laying in bed typing because I'm awake so if its not coherent I apologize now.

I hope I'm up and at em soon and ready to roll. It is absolutely gorgeous outside, and I'm pumped to have this over, if you can't tell I get a little anxious about dental stuff, and recovering. Yesterday I took my last FINAL of the semester. So that was a large relief lifted! I have one week until my next 6 week boot Camp session starts and I am getting PUMPED about that!! Emailed all the girls and having them ok and review pics/feedback before I do a full update on the last session. But I will say I am very PROUD and KNOW this was a great decision for me and for my clients... just some brief over views - ONE CLIENT IN 6 weeks of bootcamp with nutrition personalized to them... DOWN 13 pounds!And tons of inches! Another CLIENT DOWN 12 POUNDS, Another Down 7 AND AN AMAZING HARD WORKING WOMAN DOWN 24 POUNDS!! - Its not about quick fixes or magic, it is simple old fashion getting it done, back to the basics, work smart, eat smart. It is a results driven program. Focus on goals, realistic goals, set them and I will give you all the tools and motivation to achieve them, ultimately it is up to you!

NEXT SESSION STARTS MAY 23rd MESSAGE ME FOR DETAILS stephanie_villers@yahoo.com. This has become my baby! And I truly LOVE WHAT I DO!!

Power, Hard work, Ambition, and Triumph = PHAT

THIS IS A QUICK LITTLE UPDATE! As I feel like I haven't blogged in forever... and have some great ones I'd love to share, I have three in the works, half saved, half worked on because I haven't had the time to dedicate to them. School break is a commin, so hopefully those will get finished! ONE even includes some progress pics with some VERY INTERESTING comparisons of how different muscle looks than fat. Yes I know I'm fitness minded and would automatically think that, but contrary to being labeled a "bodybuilder" my goal is not for everyone to be jacked LOL Yes we hear muscle weighs more than fat, muscle's more dense, takes up less space yada yada yada, but I've yet to meet very many women who are actually OK with believing this, myself believe it or not included sometimes. I know scientifically its correct, I've seen it with my own eyes, but when I see my scale heavier, that's when whether or not I find that truth charming comes into play. I'll never forget after my first show I went to a birthday party with my daughter the next day and the CLOWN decided I looked like the best target to pick up and put on his shoulders LOL I was lean and I guess looked the littlest, he kept joking about HOW MUCH HEAVIER I WAS THAN I LOOKED!!!! LOL Yes muscle weighs more than fat but takes up less space, size twos falling off, but still weighed more than most "size 2s".

Well that's why progress pics ARE SO CRUCIAL! I even surprised myself a bit with the difference. I mean nothing miraculous, but def proof of this muscle working in our favor GREATLY. I won't go into it too much yet as that's another blog.

SO what's going on... RANDOM BULLET POINTS

*CURRENTLY WRAPPING UP THE SEMESTER AT SCHOOL - another blog is actually about school too a little - but anyway wrapping up and these last two weeks I have been SLAMMED with school work. Which is really what has halted a lot of focus on much anything else, beside training clients/boot camp/the family...

* This Weekend I will be attending Jen Hendershot's PHAT CAMP - For anyone who doesn't know who Jenny H is she has always been a fitness favorite of mine!! She has retired from Competing, but while she was competing has won both of the biggest titles in fitness: The Fitness International and the Ms. Olympia competition.

Here's a sample of one of her kick ass routines!

I'm looking forward to the ENERGY you get at fitness weekends like this, the inspiration, and of course the workouts. Her site directs: "Friday night we will be training power arms and abs, Saturday we will train chest and Shoulders. Sunday we will be training back and legs. Please do whatever you feel is on your schedule; however it is highly advised you come rested and ready for camp."

*This is My final week of this Body Definition bootcamp - IT WAS COMPLETELY FULL AND SO VERY SUCCESSFUL and FUN! Today we took some more pics, as we did at the seminar back in March and will be compiling pics and everything to add to the website that is in the process of being finished. It will start off very basic as I need a portal to services and contacts, but will grow as time allows. My vision just as my old site is to cover a lot and inspire, as well as promote, but for now my visions can take time so I need a basic start and that is coming soon! I will say the results from this boot camp have been WONDERFUL! Can't wait to share more!

THE NEXT BOOTCAMP SESSION BEGINS MAY 23rd ACCEPTING REGISTRATION NOW! FIRST COME FIRST SERVE Already 6 signed up for the 7:15 and 2 signed up for the 6 time slot. So contact me ASAP.

Body Definition Boot Camps - Hosted at Legends Gymnastics In North Andover, MA


Programs run in 6 week sessions - meet 3 times a week for an hour.


NEXT SESSION BEGINS MAY 23rd and TIMES are Mon & Wednesday @ 6 OR 7:15 Sat@ 9:00


6 weeks INCLUDES

* Pre week orientation, with initial nutrition consult, discussion and brief over view of exercises for beginners or those needing refreshing.
* Nutrition changes every 2 week - full plan personalized to your needs/goals totally interactive.
* Measurements and weigh in every 2 weeks (for those setting specific goals)
* Before and after pictures if you choose.
* Complete Guided Hands On Boot Camp Style workout with a Certified Personal Trainer
* Plyometrics, Kickboxing, Intervals, Cardio, Kettlebell, Resistance Training
* All levels and ages WELCOME - a good trainer can adjust per conditioning and age levels

We will not be holding a full seminar this go around before the start, but will be hosting another seminar day in JUNE SO STAY TUNED FOR THAT. Once the website is up you can sign up for email notifications of upcoming events!

*TODAY WAS BEAUTIFUL!! Hope everyone got to enjoy the weather, I know my kids were outside ALMOST ALL DAY!

Hope everyone has a great weekend and I'll be sharing PICS FROM PHAT CAMP SOON!